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You Can't Change Your Past

you can't change your financial history
❝Sooner or later, you have to give up hope for a better past.❞ -Irvin Yalom

I'm sitting on the couch watching a movie with my wife. We're enjoying some red wine and relaxing after a tiring day of hiking with our dog, Bingo. The wine is good, and I think it would pair well with dark chocolate. I walk to the kitchen and get some from our drawer, and I divvy it up back at the couch. Excited to sink my teeth into this chocolate, I don't pay attention as I cross my leg. My foot knocks over my glass of wine onto the floor. I can't believe it; I just spilled my red wine onto our light-colored carpet.

There were times in my life where this would have caused me to go crazy. I would have been angry at myself. I would have told myself stories about how life would be better if I didn't get up to get that chocolate. I would have felt sad because this carpet is less than 2 years old and expensive.

Instead, I realize that getting angry, upset, sad, or filling myself with regret won't help me. Right now, I'm in the middle of a situation that needs my attention. Right now is not the time to dwell on what-ifs. Right now, I have red wine soaking into my carpet.

I rush to the kitchen to grab a handful of paper towels to soak up what wine hasn't been absorbed into the carpet yet. My wife runs to the cleaning closet to grab carpet cleaner and some towels. This situation that needs our