Money Is More Than Math

"Doing well with money has little to do with how smart you are and a lot to do with how you behave. And behavior is hard to teach."

-Morgan Housel

I'm sitting at my desk in math class. I'm in middle school, and I'm pretty bored. At the end of class, the teacher asks if I could speak to him for a minute. I am being chosen to take advanced math classes. I've always been good at math, and now it seems my teacher is noticing. I start taking the advanced classes, but it's still not what I would call challenging; it's actually fun. This math stuff just really makes sense to me.

Ten years later, I'm working as a bank teller part-time as I go to college. I'm taking a lot of finance and economics courses. Between my work at the bank and my courses, I'm learning a lot about personal finance. Most of my presentations in front of these classes were about personal finance. It seems like personal finance is just an application of math. I quietly wonder to myself how people can do dumb things with their money. They must know better, I imagine to myself.

Two years later, I have to cut back my hours at the bank because the upper-level classes are pretty intense. I have to supplement my income with credit cards. It's okay, I think to myself, because I will have graduated and moved to Minneapolis in just a few months. I'm going to get a high-paying job, and all my problems will be solved.

Shortly after moving to Minneapolis, I work as a desk jockey helping people peddle subprime mortgages to people who can't afford them. I hate this job. I hate with the company's doing, and I hate my role as a cog in this machine that I don't like. As a result, this job only lasted a few months. Now I find myself unemployed in an expensive city.

By the time I found the job that would eventually launch my career, I have racked up over $25,000 of credit card debt across 15 credit cards. My minimum payments are enough to pay rent at a nice apartment. My interest payments over a year are over $5,000.

I don't quite understand it. Personal finance it's supposed to be about math, and I'm good at math. How do I get into the situation?

This is when I learn that money is not about information, logic, and math; money is about emotions, behavior, and psychology.

money is emotional so information is not enough

Personal Finance Basics Are Simple

It's easy to believe that personal finance and investing are nothing more than a math problem. We think that because the basics are pretty simple. The basics include spending less than you make, saving for the future, and not making any big mistakes.

Because of this seeming simplicity, we believe if we just had more information, a better equation, or more data, we would make better financial decisions. Then we are hard on ourselves when we don't achieve what we set out to do. We might even doubt our intelligence because we couldn't figure out the math problem.

Just because something is simple does not mean it's easy.

money is simple, but not easy because it's emotional

Simple Is Not the Same as Easy

There is a difference between something being simple and something being easy. Some things can be both simple and easy, like mowing your grass. Some things are neither simple nor easy, like rocket science, for example.

Simplicity is about concepts and rules. The opposite of simplicity is complexity. Easy is about a low level of difficulty. The opposite of easy is hard, or difficult.

Personal finance and investing fall into the camp of simple because the concepts are pretty straightforward.

Money does not fall into the camp of easy, however, because money is emotional.

personal finance is not easy, even though it's simple, because money is emotional

Money Is Emotional

Something being easy refers to how difficult it is to actually do. Unfortunately, personal finance is not easy. Money is not a math problem; money is a psychology problem. It's about managing our emotions and our behaviors. That's hard to teach, learn, and implement.

You can think about personal finance as having two sides. The first side is the exterior side. This is what most of us think about when we think about money. This is the mechanics, strategies, and tactics that we try to implement. Exterior finance is where you find math. The other side is the interior side of money. Interior finance is where we find our emotions, feelings, and motivation. All the exterior financial knowledge in the world won't help us if we are unable or unwilling to implement that knowledge.

The first thing to realize after learning money is emotional is that money is hard for everybody. There are a lot of negative emotions attached to money, including guilt, shame, envy, anxiety, fear, and regret. You've heard of some of these concepts before, but perhaps maybe not in contacts. Envy is the driving force behind our attempts to keep up with the Joneses. Fear is what's behind FOMO, or the fear of missing out.

These and many other emotions are tied to all of our financial behaviors and decisions. We will do a lot to avoid negative emotions. One antidote to learning how to better accept negative emotions is mindfulness. When we learn how to accept our emotions without judgment, we can better manage them.

Most of what we do with our money makes no logical sense to an outside observer. However, if you understand the emotional state of the person making the decision, or the money script that is driving these decisions, every decision makes perfect sense.

only after addressing the emotional side of money will information help

Stages of Change

If you are anything like me, you think that people naturally want to get better and will do anything possible to better their lives. It follows, then, that if people aren't better, then they simply don't have enough information. Once the information comes, the change will happen. That's tempting to think, but that's not how we are wired.