❝Time - the one asset none of us are ever going to get more of.❞ -Gary Vaynerchuk
“Wayne” is an awful boss. Wayne runs a company that is severely short-staffed. As a result, it's expected that everybody works well into the evening. If that's not enough, we're expected to take our work home with us so that we can work in the evenings and on the weekends.
This was my life for a short time. I'm unable to align my energy with my tasks and projects because my day was dictated to me by Wayne. That means that the workday was a drag because I'm trying to do one thing, but I'm not in the right frame of mind for that kind of work. Nor was I able to do anything for myself, on my own time. I didn't have my own time. By the time I got home from my long day, I have more work to do at home. By the time that was done, I was exhausted. It was time for bed.
To recap, Wayne controlled how I use my time and how much free time I have. Needless to say, I was very unhappy working for Wayne.
Having control over your time can add significant value to your life.
We All Get the Same Amount of Time
A day consists of 24 hours. 24-hours consists of 1,440 minutes. 1,440 minutes consist of 86,400 seconds. This fact is true, no matter who you are. We all have a choice about what to do with this time that we have.
Time can be spent on productivity. Time can be spent on hobbies. Time can be spent on leisure. Time can be spent on learning something new. Time can be spent to rest up and recharge your batteries. Time can be spent doing what someone else told us to do. Or, time can be wasted.
For many of us, this choice is ours. We get to choose how to spend this time. For others, there's not much choice. For those people, increasing that choice will increase their satisfaction and well-being.
We Don't Know How Much Time We Have
I just said that everybody gets the same time. Now I'm saying that we don't know how much time we have. It sounds contradictory, I know. Though we know how much time we have in a day, we do not know how many days we have. There's an old saying that our days are numbered, but we don't know the number of days.
There are no guarantees. This is important when you think about how you choose to spend the time you know you have. Are you using your limited time in a way that adds value to your life or adds value to others? Are you using your time in a way that you will be proud to look back on from your deathbed?
Happiness: Experiences Versus Stuff
Many people believe that we are our stuff, that the stuff that we buy says something about us. You're happier than those people.
In psychology, there is an idea called the hedonic treadmill. This is the idea that you are on a treadmill walking towards happiness in front of you, but you'll never get there because you're just spinning your wheels. You want to get new furniture or a new theater system or a new car, only to find out that the happiness only lasted for a short time. Then you need to buy something else to get happy again. Around and around you go.
Buying stuff fails to make us happy because it's always in front of us. We have to see it constantly. Then we have to see new versions come out. We have to see our neighbors and friends get better versions. We have to see it get used and be subject to wear and tear. We never really get a good memory of our stuff because we're always looking at it.
By comparison, experiences give us memories. We get memories of going on adventures. We get memories of spending time with our loved ones. We get memories of being afraid of something and overcoming that fear. We get memories of accomplishing something we didn't think we'd accomplish.
Even if these experiences are stressful, over time, we tend to remember the good aspects of these experiences, and we tend to forget the bad aspects of these experiences. This is called euphoric recall. Do you remember the last time you went on a vacation with your partner? How often did you fight about where to get dinner? If you're like most, you forgot about that. The rest of you remember it but laugh as you look back on it. Even the bad stuff is remembered as a good experience.